Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Why God Has Not Called Me to Get a Job (Part 4)

Welcome back to Part 4.  Today I am going to address two concerns amongst Christian wives and mothers.
Concern #1: What if your husband wants you to get a job?
Concern #2:  Since the Proverbs 31 woman was industrious, should a Christian wife and mother get a job outside of the home? 

If you haven't read Part 1, Part 2 or Part 3 please take the time to read them so you can get the full context of this post.

So, as a Christian wife and mother, if your husband asks you to get a job in this economy, should you listen to him?  Let’s turn to the Scriptures for the answer.
  • ·       "Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord." Ephesians 5:22  "Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything." Ephesians 5:24
  • ·       “In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won by the conduct of their wives, by observing your pure and reverent lives.”  1 Peter 3:1,2

The Scriptures are clear, as a wife, you are to submit to your husband in everything.  The only time you do not obey your husband is when he is asking you to sin.  Is he asking you to do something contrary to God’s law, i.e, commit adultery, lie, steal, etc.  “We ought to obey God rather than men.”  Acts 5:29

Since the Bible does not explicitly forbid the woman from getting a job outside of the home, it is therefore not a sin to get a job, so ‘yes’ you would submit to him.

My heart breaks for a woman who has to go down this path.  Share your heart with your husband about how you feel and do your best to be obedient and loving as you head out into the workplace.  Hopefully in time he will realize it is best for you to be at home ministering to your family.    

Let's switch gears now and tackle the burning question of whether or not the Proverbs 31 woman had a job outside of the home.  The following verses indicate that she was involved in some sort of business.
  • ·       She considers a field and buys it; from her profits she plants a vineyard.  Proverbs 31:16
  • ·     She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies sashes for the merchants.  Proverbs 31:24
But first, let's go in Biblical order before we deal directly with these verses.

The Word of God refers to a woman’s relationship with her husband as her primary ministry, followed by the raising of her children, and then the keeping of her home, with outside ministries and industrious endeavors bringing  up the rear. 

Below are a few Scriptures regarding the importance of a wife:

My marriage is my first ministry.
“An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones.”  Proverbs 12:4

Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.  Proverbs 31:10
The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.  Proverbs 31:11

She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.  Proverbs 31:12

Then in Titus 2:3-5, God lays out 8 characteristics so wives do not blaspheme the Word of God. 
1.      Be sober. (intelligent)
2.      Love your husband.
3.      Love your children.
4.      Be discreet. (modest)
5.      Keepers at home.
6.      Good.
7.      Obedient to your husband.
A God-fearing wife’s life is centered around her husband, her children and her home.

Then of course we have the verses that state a wife is to submit to her own husband and that the husband is the head of the wife. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  Ephesians 5:22  For the husband is head of the wife.  Eph. 5:23

Let me develop this thought for you.  Would you agree that the Proverbs 31 woman took care of her husband, children and home?  Yes?  I would too.

Being that she was under her husband’s leadership, headship, covering, etc. and the Bible says the wife is to submit to her own husband, (Eph. 5:22) would the Proverbs 31 woman have a job outside of the home?  If she did and the employer was a male (perhaps someone else’s husband-get it!) how would she be able to submit to her own husband in that situation?  She wouldn’t.  She would no longer be under her husband’s headship if she worked outside of the home.  A woman in an employer/employee relationship is under authorities that God has not enjoined her to.

But what about those verses in Proverbs???  The Word says she bought a field and planted a vineyard PLUS she made and sold merchandise!  So here's my question for you to ponder.

Do you think she worked for someone else when she did those things?  Or was she directly under her husband's leadership in those entrepreneurial endeavors? 

I believe this woman worked from her home so she wouldn't neglect her first ministry and I also believe that her marriage was so important to her that she would not have jeopardized it in any way by submitting to another man's leadership just so she could receive a paycheck.

Yes, she was industrious, but that entrepreneurial spirit would come second to her husband, her children and the keeping of the home so the Word of God would not be blasphemed.

So what would be the motivation for the woman to have a cottage industry?  Would it be to further her career or to keep up with ‘the Jones’ per se?  Or would it be to help out her husband, a means to an end, not an end in themselves.  I am sure the woman had her kids by her side as she worked in her cottage industry so she could get them involved and teach them some skills as well.

Have a biblical reason for everything you do or don’t do.

No where in the Bible does it state that a woman shouldn’t work outside of the home, but neither does it state that a man should be a keeper of the home"All things are lawful for me, but not all things are profitable."  1 Corinthians 6:12 NASB.
Don’t look to the world for the answers.
Be careful not to define your life by what the Bible does not say, rather define it by what it does say.

I know for many of you this subject is a hard pill to swallow. I understand how you feel!  I was once a feminist who denied the existence of God.  But I encourage you to surrender to God and the plan that He has for you.

Join me for the last part of this series, in which I have entitled, God's Truths and Satan's Lies for the Working Woman.
In this post, I will answer the following questions:
Is it spiritually best for you to be in the workplace?
Will your marriage blossom when you head out the door to earn a paycheck?
Will the relationship that you have with your children grow stronger or weaker as a result of you not being home?

Be in prayer about your decision.
Use discernment.
Know that God will provide.
"And my God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:19


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